Sunday, March 13, 2016

Grandpa Could Pull 'Em In Right and Left!

The Bassmaster Classic Tournament of 2016 brought world competition and fevered fishing excitement to our Sooner state. It seemed appropriate to post these vintage photos since March 13 is the birthday of my grandfather, Calvin Callcayah Smith.
Grandpa and Fishing and More
Angie proudly holding the reel Grandpa used to catch the
 wide-mouth bass he had caught on their fishing trip. She 
wasn't big enough to hold the bass or she would have!
                Grandpa loved the outdoors. Whether gathering wild fruit, fishing in a pond, hunting in the timber, or just relaxing under the Chinese elm tree in the yard of the our farmhouse, my grandpa, Calvin Callcayah Smith, preferred the peaceful serenity of the outdoors. The scent of the blossoms of the apricot trees in the spring, the delicious plum butter made from the tree plums gathered in the summer, or the splashing and thrashing sounds of a “nice size” fish trying to escape his fishing line appealed to his senses.
               Both of my grandmothers would choose a day of fishing over shopping any time. Grandma Smith relied heavily on the moon’s phases or “signs.” She based her angling on this information as it appeared in The Farmer’s Almanac. In contrast, no one ever knew what affected his fishing excursions, since Grandpa was a man who spoke few words.   
                Even though my parents, my sister, and I always lived in the same home with my maternal grandparents, a day could pass with hardly any words spoken between my grandpa and me. My cousin, Ron Bledsoe, related recently, “Oh yes, I remember Calvin. When I was a kid in the 1950s, your grandpa went coon hunting with us. He said very little, but when he said something - it was funny!”
                Grandpa was friends with the Jefferson family since he had leased for many years their land south across the road from our farm. Frequently, in the summer, I would glance out the window and catch a glimpse of Grandpa, with his fishing rod and small tackle box, walking through the Jefferson pasture to the secluded pond.
                Even though Grandpa milked the milk cow, fed and watered between 200-500 chickens, gathered the hen eggs, and stored them in the cellar until selling them to the hatchery, he took a little bit of time to relax. Soon he returned to work with my grandma in the enormous garden or cleared, by hand, the fence lines, repairing any breaches in the fence. My sister, and I never knew Grandpa kept the fences cleared until just months before our father suffered his first stroke, and we asked him how he managed to build houses and keep the fence lines from becoming overgrown. Dad replied, “Calvin kept them cleared.”      
                Yet Grandpa found time to fish. Angie went on more fishing jaunts with Grandpa than I did since she was five years younger than I was. While I was off to school, they had many trips to one of the three ponds on my parents’ farm. Angie, at a quite young age, could speak fluently, was focused, and obedient. (When I was in second grade, Angie, at age seven, memorized a poem I was learning for a school program and could recite it word perfect!). Her calm and compliant demeanor made her the perfect fishing partner even as a preschooler.
As much as Grandpa enjoyed fishing, he received much more joy at
seeing Angie's excitement over his catch. 
                Grandpa usually caught something worth keeping. My grandma, Gladys Vivian Rainey Smith, intimated that Grandpa’s Cherokee DNA contributed to his understanding of everything from weather prediction to finding wild edibles to discerning  where and when the fish were biting.
                 Mother recalled her father's impeccable ability to cast precisely, with laser precision, wherever he aimed in the water. Grandpa never used a stringer. Instead he always had a "gunny sack", a burlap bag, to hold his caught fish. He had constructed his own fish-cleaning table that he placed north of the garage. Upon returning from an afternoon of fishing, he immediately began scaling and preparing the fish so Mother could freeze them.
                Mother recalled a time when Grandpa went fishing alone at the Community Lake near Ralston early one morning with the wind blowing from the north. He left before Mother and Grandma could get around to go.
                Grandpa returned soon with three large catfish. He told them excitedly, that just as soon as he got one off his hook and threw his line back into the water, another fish struck it again. Grandpa’s excitement prompted him to be more verbal than he usually was.
Mother passed on to us this little rhyme about fishing. That time the little rhyme about the wind direction and the predicted results didn’t work.
Wind from the east,
Fishing is least.
Wind from the west,
Fishing is best.
Wind from the north,
Fisherman, go not forth.
Wind from the south
Blows in the fish’s mouth.
                My father jokingly said that Grandpa would move fast if a fishing trip were on the horizon. Grandpa spent time preparing his tackle box, making and repairing his lures, and even creating his own. Grandpa found a sturdy limb and made it into a fishing “pole.” I always liked to use it, especially after his death, even though it required extra muscle to hold it. One could be sure no fish would break the pole!
                Grandpa loved to fish. I think a fisherman must be an optimist – he’ll reel in the next one. A committed fisher always expects the best – the next  big one won’t get away. A serious angler puts all his effort into achieving a goal – he will land the next fish that bites.
                Just weeks before Grandpa’s death, Harold and Gertrude Forbes Goad came to our home to visit Grandpa. He had faithfully taught the adult men’s Sunday School class at Ralston Baptist Church in the late 1970s. Harold commented that the class attendance had diminished and expressed some discouragement. Grandpa, in a weakened condition and dangerously thin, responded to Harold with conviction and optimism, “Harold, I’ll get back over there, and we’ll get it built back up.”
                Grandpa’s determination and commitment provides a model for carrying through a responsibility to the very end. May those of us who knew and loved him honor him on his birthday with our own pledge to live courageously, doing the right thing with an infectious spirit that impacts those around us for the good.          

For reading the post about Grandpa's World War I experience, click:
http://bernadeanjgates.blogspot.com/2014/11/the-spanish-flu-pandemic-of-1918.html

To access the blog posted on Grandpa's  birthday two years ago with a portrait of him in his youth, click:
http://bernadeanjgates.blogspot.com/2014/03/the-legacy.html

Sunday, March 6, 2016

Keeping a Big Family Connected

The South Dakota Connection of the Gates Family
             Claudia Rae Gates Lentz, the oldest daughter of Jim and Lou Dixon Gates, was born on March 7. Her father was serving in the Air Force and stationed in Rapid City, South Dakota, at Rapid City Air Base where the B-36 Peacemaker was based. During Jim’s stint there, President Dwight W. Eisenhower came for the dedication and renaming of the base. It became Ellsworth Air Base, in honor of the commander of the base who had been killed along with a crew of over 20 airmen on a training mission.*
                Ron Bledsoe, my eldest cousin on the Gates side, recalled a trip his family took to South Dakota when he was around 11 years old. His father, Harry Bledsoe drove from Oklahoma City to Grand Rapids. Ella Gates Bledsoe, Ron’s mother, spearheaded the trip to see her baby brother, Jim and his family. Ron’s seven-year-old sister, Mary Beth, anticipated meeting a new cousin.
                Jim and Lou had established a loving home on his enlistment salary in a tiny apartment for little Claudia. Lou worked for Buckingham Trucking Company as a keypunch operator. (She worked until Claudia’s birth. The company requested she return after her maternity leave, but she and Jim were already Oklahoma bound!)
What a wonderful example of thriftiness, creativity, and commitment on Lou’s part to take a challenging budgeting situation and as my father would say, “make a go of it.” Lou was only nineteen years old and living three states away from home and any family support!
                Ron remembered transversing the Mount Rushmore state to visit another of his mother’s brothers, Jess. Jess, Vesta, his wife, and four of their children also lived in South Dakota on their farm. Ron and Mary Beth anticipated seeing their cousins – Lynda, age 8, Phillip, age 6, Brenda, age 3, and the baby at the time, Debbie.
                Claudia’s parents recalled their move to Oklahoma from South Dakota with Claudia. They had converted the back seat of their car into a play area for little Claudia as they traveled back to Oklahoma. Jim and Lou strategically stacked and packed their luggage level, draping a sheet over it to make a playpen for her. The seven-month old cutie stayed entertained during most of the lengthy trip.
Jim, Lou, and Claudia Gates - taken soon
after they moved to the Big Bend. (photo
from the collection of Bernyce Gates)
Jim’s older brother, Herb with his wife, Billie, and their little son, Steve, came to help them move. Herb had a new pickup that he was itching to use to haul Jim and Lou’s furniture.
Lou, Jim, and Claudia settled on a place owned by Reid Morris west of the Woodland School in the Big Bend. Jim kept Mr. Morris’s cattle watered as payment for their rent. (Descendents of Reid and Opal Morris continue to live in the area with one of their great grandsons serving Pawnee County as sheriff.)
Herb, Billie, and Steve, age 2, stayed with them for a short time after their second son, Mark, was born in 1954. Dr. Spaulding even made a house call to see Billie during those days. Lou recalled the fun of watching Steve pull Claudia’s little red wagon around the yard.
                Family ties were important to Ella, Jim, Jess, and Herb. Claudia grew up to become the driving force in keeping the Gates family connections strong for over 27 years with her organization of the annual summer reunion.
                Several years ago Claudia created a written history of births, marriages, and deaths of each descendent of my grandparents, Edmund, Sr. and Mamie Irene. Her collection of this valuable information has been a “go-to” document when verifying information I have heard or been given. How often I have been grateful for her commitment to record vital family facts.
                My father used frequently the phrase “time marches on.” I have discovered memories dim, recollections are revised, and unforgettable photograph information fades “as time marches on” unless documentation is done. Every family needs to engage in some form of recording family memories – whether videos of family storytelling, handwritten remembrances, or simply photographs with brief explanations – and the sooner the better. If it is a multi-generational endeavor, the benefits reaped from the time spent together will prove to be priceless.
Some of  the grandchildren of Edmund, Sr. and Mamie Gates taken at a reunion
in the 1980s. Seated on the floor: Mark Gates, Janie Gates, Tim Gates, Lynda
Gates, and Steve Gates. Seated - 2nd Row - Stacey Gates, Angie Gates, Mamie
Tripp Gates, Mary Beth Bledsoe, Bernadean Gates, Debbie Gates, Brenda Gates.
Standing: Ron Bledsoe, Tracey Gates, Jim Gates, Bernie Mastagni, Patsy
Mastagni, Claudia Gates, Phillip Gates, and Daniel Edmund Newland.
Happy birthday, Claudia!

*Source:
http://blackhillsknowledgenetwork.org/black-hills/community-history/9602-ellsworth-air-force-base-story-spans-flying-fortresses-nuclear-missiles-and-drones#.VtI_dH0rKt8

Sunday, February 28, 2016

She Was Just Deanne's Sister to People Around Here

Vonette Zachary Bright evoked admiration and respect in many circles the world over. Some people may have never had the privilege of meeting her. Hopefully, this short account will give a glimpse into the godly woman she was.
The Life-Long Impact of a One-Time Meeting
                I have played for countless weddings over the years. Rehearsals preceded most of those nuptials. Rehearsal dinners featured foods ranging from donuts with coffee, barbeque, a traditional Osage meal, heavy hors d’oeuvres, family-style Italian, to an assortment of other delicious food accompanied by uplifting conversation. One of these events inspired a remembrance.
                I don’t recall the specifics about the food, just that it was good. We dined at a sit-down meal in the basement of the Ralston Bible Church. Lots of laughter filled the evening the night before the marriage of Gaylynn Rice and Michael Treat on April 2, 1988.
                The one happening of the evening most memorable to me was the blessing by the bride’s aunt, Vonette Zachary Bright. I knew who she was – the co-founder of CRU (At its inception, it was called Campus Crusade for Christ.) with her husband, Bill. My involvement in CRU during my first year at Oklahoma State University provided the stability and support needed for me to successfully navigate my transition.
               My grandmother, Gladys Rainey Smith, admired Vonette Bright’s commitment to serve the Lord. She delighted in discussing Mrs. Bright and her husband’s work with her great-nephew, Bob Rice. Of course, Vonette Bright was Bob’s sister-in-law! Vonette and my grandma would want you to see this:
http://www.4laws.com/laws/englishkgp/default.htm

Zachary Family Photo from Deanne Rice's Collection. Seated: Roy and Mary
Margaret Zachary with their youngest daughter, Deanne. Standing: Glenn Zachary,
Curtis Zachary, and Vonette Zachary Bright.
Vonette was thirteen years old when I was born so you can imagine how thrilled
 she was to have another girl in the family as well as to have a baby sister to dress 
up and play with. Mother gave her a lot of responsibility with me so she was 
my 'second' mother.  I didn't know where one started and the other left off.
- a quote by Deanne Zachary Rice

                At the rehearsal dinner, prior to our meal, Vonette stood and spoke to Gaylynn and Mike about the principles  needed for them to have a successful marriage. Vonette presented, with skill and beauty, a concise message of the love of Jesus and how each of us could and should have meaningful lives as followers of Jesus. What a profound impression Vonette’s few sentences had on me! No other rehearsal dinner impacted my memory as that one in April of 1988.
Bob and Deanne Zachary Rice with Vonette and Bill Bright
- photograph from Deanne Zachary Rice's collection
Through out my whole life she has mentored me and has had a profound
influence on me. She was the perfect big sister. She always 
made a big deal
out of birthdays and family get togethers. Everyone
always felt special and
deeply loved.  She carried that into her ministry 
with Cru. Staff members
were like her children and family.She knew
them by name, prayed for them
individually, and helped them adjust
to their calling in the ministry.
-
a quote by Deanne Zachary Rice
                On January 8, 2016, Mother and I were able to view online the memorial service for Vonette Zachary Bright. Over a hundred people posted online the positive way she had influenced their lives. Beautiful music, powerful tributes, and encouraging scriptures seamlessly wove themselves into an uplifting worship experience.
                Kay Arthur used four points to honor Vonette Bright based on the life of the judge, Deborah, in the book of Judges from the Bible. She drew the comparison between Deborah and Vonette with these:
1.       They both listened to God. (Am I daily reading God’s word so I too can listen to Him?)
2.       They both enlisted others. (Do I seek to find as many others as possible to work with to accomplish God’s work?)
3.       Neither Vonette or Deborah cared who got the glory for their work. (Oh how I want to be exactly like them!)
4.       Both women experienced and handled grief. (I want to be like them, experiencing a loss, grieving the loss, but finding purpose in the grief.)

Deanne Zachary Rice, the only sister of Vonette Bright, has encouraged me as she serves at funeral dinners and opens her home to host women’s Bible studies. Deanne’s commitment to support selflessly her husband, children and grandchildren enriches their lives and undergirds them as they seek to impact all they meet.
Deanne and I laughed about how this photograph from the early 1940s
indicated the humble beginnings of Vonette in Coweta, Oklahoma. 

Only God knew she would minister and touch lives all over the world.
She is second from the right on the upper row. Deanne is the first VBS
student in the front row. (Photo from Deanne Zachary Rice's collection)
She served a big God and she trusted Him for big things, therefore
she encouraged people to go beyond their own limits to God's limits
and she would always be there to get you started. She was a "Why
Can't We?" type of person. -
a quote by Deanne Zachary Rice

To learn more about Vonette Zachary Bright go to:
https://www.cru.org/us/en/about/vonette-bright.html