Sunday, December 26, 2021

Fire, Family, and Friends Ten Years Ago

  The Scariest New Year's Day

Next Saturday, New Year's Day of 2022, marks a decade since Dad's barn burned. It was a traumatic day but revealed to Dad about two months before his stroke how deeply his neighbors cared for him. This post first appeared as the final blog post entry for December 2014. Ten years after the fire seemed an appropriate time to publish it again. The deep gratitude to God, family, and friends is just as great as it was ten years ago.

   On January 1, 2012, as Mother and I returned from morning church services, we were discussing a terrible tragedy that had struck a dear friend’s family on New Year’s Eve. Suddenly, to our horror as we topped the hill of my parents’ farm, dark smoke billowed in front of us. We had left my 91-year-old father at home in his recliner because he was dizzy. I gasped with a guarded panic in my voice, “Oh Mom, there’s a fire!” Almost immediately, my words punctuated with alarm and fear, I exclaimed, “It’s the barn!” Thankfully, hardly before those words had left my mouth, we glimpsed my father in the pasture about halfway between the house and where the barn once stood, staring at the smoldering pile of charred tin that less than an hour earlier had been the fifty-year-old structure that he had built himself.

   As devastating as that fated day was when Dad’s vintage pickup had sparked a blaze inside the barn, it was just as miraculous that my 91-year-old father had quickly driven the vehicle from the flames, instantly realizing there was no action that he could take to assuage the inferno and save the hay that was stored for the winter. 
   Yet just as destructive as the morning fire was, the outpouring of generosity overwhelmed the feeling of desolation even as the air remained filled with the acrid, pungent odor from the burnt, smoldering barn ruins. Within two hours of the fire, Rick Rice and Richard Fesler pulled in their tractors transporting bales of hay to replace the ones Dad had lost. 
   This was only the beginning. Carl Goad, Dave Goad, Joe Day, and Forrest Goad each brought bales with no fanfare - just hearts motivated by compassion and concern for one of the older cattlemen in the Big Bend community.
    Mother vividly recalled one day following the fire, she, with her arthritic knees, and Dad, slowed by his 91 years, were trying to drive the entire herd of cattle away from the lovingly donated bales with absolutely no success. Mother whispered a prayer asking God to help them. Almost immediately, Rick Rice drove in and helped Dad herd the cattle out of the much needed hay.
    On March 3 of the same year, Dad suffered a major stroke affecting his left side, his speech, and his ability to walk without assistance.  During the months of March and April, Rick cared for the cattle, repairing some of the timeworn fencing on my parents’ place as well as gates. He reported with pride when the spring calves began being born. One day in March, he made a trip to the rehab center in Stillwater to check on Dad and give him an account of his stock – some of the best medicine Dad could receive.
    When a family finds itself in a tough situation, God uses people to meet their needs--from Josh Harris and Caleb Rice who first glimpsed the smoke, to Joe and Mike Hightower, who arrived quickly on the scene with the Big Bend Volunteer fire truck, to the Indian Electric Cooperative crew and Kyle Welch who assisted with the electricity, to Connie and Carl Goad, who were overjoyed to pull up to the fire and see Dad unscathed. Then there were the men who donated hay.

Within a couple of hours of Dad's barn burning to the ground, these two tractors pulled in
with hay bales to replace those destroyed in the morning barn blaze.

    All of these were people God used to encourage my parents. Dad never spoke lamentably about his enormous loss, but it might have been unbearable if he had not had these individuals, through their actions, not words, said, “Ed, we care about you and want you to carry on.”
Richard Fesler and his tractor, Rick Rice and his tractor and Ben Bradley, my
brother-in-law, visiting with them both. 

Sunday, December 19, 2021

The First Christmas Reenacted in 1994

                 The Christmas of 1994 found several of the members of the Ralston Baptist Church depicting the first Christmas at the farm of Charles and Nancy Wills. The still photos were shown as slides for the church's Christmas program that year. Little did our church know Diana Widener, a much-loved teen in our church, was celebrating the last Christmas with us on earth. Her life was taken in a car accident in May of 1995. It is a blessing we have these last Christmas memories with her to cherish.

                An explosion of the brilliance of God’s glory illuminated the quiet night sky of the fields of Bethlehem. The obedient, vigilant shepherds were awe-struck with fear at the sight of a mighty angel of the Lord towering before them. 

Krystal Engle as the angel appearing to the 
shepherds, Gregg Engle, Rick Rice, and Lee Hock

                Quickly, the assuring voice of the heavenly messenger calmed the startled herders of the flock of sheep. The carefully crafted announcement from the heart of God exceeded any royal birth proclamation posted here on the earth. Those powerful words transcended time, echoing hope, joy, and truth to hearts in the 21st century:

For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord.

And this will be a sign unto you; You will find a babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger. Luke 2:11

          Suddenly a resonance of holy acclamation filled the air.  “An army of the troops of heaven” joined the announcing angel praising God as these words echoed throughout the fields where the sheep lay. 

Beautiful Angels - Diana Widener, Lisa Wills, Barbara Rice, and Judy Lowe
with Krystal Engle behind them.

Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace toward men of goodwill. Luke 2:14

                Upon the departure of the angels for heaven, the startled, but faith-filled shepherds could not wait. They insisted on rushing into Bethlehem that very night to see what the Lord had revealed to them. There was never a question if this miraculous birth of the Christ or long-promised Messiah had occurred. They simply hurried to find the Baby King.

The Shepherds Worshiping the Newborn King -Lee Hock, Gregg Engle, Lauralea
and Randy Corley, and Rick Rice

               The shepherds’ new mission became sharing the good news of the birth of the Savior with everyone they encountered. In turn, all who heard the shepherds’ news were amazed, except Mary. Mary, the mother of this tiny God-King, chronicled and pondered in her heart all the events surrounding her extraordinary baby.

Gregg Engle, Lee Hock, and Rick Rice as
shepherds tell of the newborn Savior and King to 
those they met portrayed by Diana Widener and
Barbara Rice.

The shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things they had heard and seen, as it was told them. Luke 2:20

Dear Father, as we enter this week prior to Christmas, may we like the shepherds respond with awe at the heavenly announcement, with glorious and unashamed praise of this infant king, the Savior, and Lord. In the pattern of the shepherds, give us boldness to make known to all we encounter the wonderful news of God coming to humans. Finally, Father, look on our hearts and see we cannot help but glorify You. Accept our wholehearted gratitude for the unfathomable gift of Your Son, Jesus.

Sunday, December 12, 2021

Not As Planned

            As I revisited the events influencing the birth of Jesus, most people mentioned in accounts in the Gospel of Luke and Matthew faced situations they would have never planned. If you are like me, frequently, the phrase crosses my mind This is not what I planned.

            Yet the planning of the first Christmas began ions before its realization took place on earth. John wrote this phrase in Revelation 13:8 “…the Lamb slain from the foundation of the world.”

            Little did Caesar Augustus know his decree issued for taxation purposes affecting the Roman world represented a mere puzzle piece in God’s plan. God’s plan enabled Joseph’s compliance with the decree to fulfill having Mary in Bethlehem, the same Bethlehem predicted in Micah’s prophecy in Micah 5:2. 

Even though a donkey is not mentioned
in the Gospel accounts of the birth of 
Jesus, this photo captured the strength 
of Joseph's commitment to care for the
Mother of his Savior, the unborn Son
of God, Jesus.(Randy/Lauralea Corley)

            It is incomprehensible that Mary envisioned giving birth to her firstborn Son in a place that housed a manger! God’s plan from the beginning demanded the incarnation of God in a human body, the essence of humility, obscurity, and lowliness. Paul recorded the unfolding of God’s Plan as revealed in Jesus. Paul wrote in Philippians 2:7-8: But made Himself of no reputation, taking the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death, even the death of the cross.

Lauralea Corley holding Breanna, her third-born
daughter. Breanna and my mother, Bernyce Gates,
share a special recognition. They both portrayed 
the Christ Child. Mother was the Baby Jesus in
the Belford School Christmas Program in the 
Bend 97 years ago.

              When the precious baby arrived, Mary wrapped her little son in swaddling clothes and placed him in the food trough of animals. Decision, a monthly periodical originated by Billy Graham, featured an interesting article comparing the swaddling clothes to similar cloths wrapped around the lambs raised in that same region for temple sacrificial purposes. The article can be accessed at this link: Christmas Means More Than You've Realized (decisionmagazine.com)

 

Lee Hock and Gregg Engle enacting the part of 
shepherds with Dr. Charles and Nancy Wills' 
sheep playing the role of the flocks mentioned by
Luke.
             Is it any wonder the shepherds watching over these special flocks were the first to hear of this extraordinary birth? These men followed in the footsteps of Abraham, the father of the Jewish nation, who had extensive flocks. God used the rod, the shepherd’s tool of Moses, mightily as Moses led the Israelites from Egypt to the Promise Land. David not only shepherded his father’s flock but crafted one of the most memorized and beloved psalms describing exquisitely the Lord as our shepherd. It was not happenstance this specific group had been selected to receive first the birth announcement of the tiny Lamb of God. 
Rick Rice herding the Wills Family flock on the
Wills Farm northwest of Ralston.

            May we have hearts prepared to receive the One who so many people missed two millennia ago. Micah described the Ruler coming from Bethlehem as one who will shepherd My people. May we have hearts that welcome and receive His shepherding – following only Him, hearing only His voice, and obeying wholeheartedly the One who laid down His life for the sheep. There is no better way to celebrate His coming into our world.

Lee Hock, Gregg Engle, and Rick Rice posing
with the Wills' flock of sheep.

Sunday, December 5, 2021

Commitment and Integrity

                                                              Revisiting Mary and Joseph

                Growing up with Gladys Smith as my grandma found me as a little one firmly understanding that Christmas celebrated the birth of Jesus. We sang Christmas carols. A small tree and the nativity set stood side by side on the top of the bookcase. Nativity figures inspired by Grandma, cut out by Grandpa and painted by Mother filled he large window in the living room. Large outdoor Christmas lights illuminated the window.

                Grandma instilled that Christmas remembrances must emphasize the coming of Jesus into the world. But as Jesus does even today, His coming brought fear, consternation, and uncertainty. Gabriel’s sudden appearance to Mary elicited fear but Gabriel told her not to be afraid. God was changing the trajectory of her life with the upcoming birth of His Son. Mary’s consternation over having a baby prompted Gabriel to say, “For with God nothing will be impossible.” Finally, the uncertainty of how God’s plan for her would unfold, led Mary to acquiesce to her Lord, “I belong to the Lord, body and soul. Let it happen as You say.”*

Lauralea Corley portrayed Mary in the 1990s
reenactment of the Nativity. This photo
 captured the resolute commitment by Mary
 to be used by God no matter the cost.

                Joseph, the man “espoused” to Mary, was blindsided by Mary’s shocking news. The espousal was a formal, binding agreement that preceded the marriage ceremony. Dissolving the espousal involved more than a 21st century engagement breakup, usually resulting in public shaming of the female. Joseph described as an “honorable, just, upright, righteous” man, reacted to the decimation of his dream for marriage and family with concern for Mary, not himself. Even though Joseph knew he had behaved with integrity throughout their relationship, he wanted no drama at all – for Mary’s sake. Yet as soon as the Lord gave him insight into His plan through the angel’s message, Joseph “did as the angel of the Lord commanded him.”** So instead of dissolving the betrothal, Joseph entered the marriage contract with Mary just as God told him.

Randy Corley portrayed Joseph in the a 1990s
Ralston Baptist Church's slide-generated
Christmas program. His face conveyed honor, 
uprightness, and Joseph's commitment to 
God and in turn, to Mary, the mother of his 
Savior.

                Weekly, we are faced with skewed plans. We pray for God’s will and His direction in our lives. Then He leads in a way that never appeared on our drawing board. When the unthinkable happens, how easily blame finds its way into our thoughts and words. If we follow Joseph’s example, we won’t yield to that temptation. When hopes and dreams are dashed, complaints and resistance loom large in our reaction. If we model the response of Mary, we consent humbly, full of trust, and love for the Lord. May He give us grace to trust Him more and fill our hearts with devotion and obedience to each of His promptings this Christmas season.




*Luke 1:38 - The Message.
**Matthew 1:24 - The New King James Version

Sunday, November 28, 2021

Thanksgiving Celebrations Decades Ago*

         This week of Thanksgiving finds several families whom I love walking the road of sorrow with hearts so heavy with grief. No words can ease the searing pain of the crushing loss of a cherished loved one. Yet God grants us the precious gift of memory. The psalmist penned "For the righteous will never be moved; he will be remembered forever" (Psalm 112:6). Paul explained how we become righteous in 2 Corinthians 5:21, "For our sake He made Him (Jesus) to be sin who knew no sin, so that in Him we might become the righteousness of God."  As we affirm our trust in Jesus, may we also hold those we love a little closer during these seasons of family gatherings and celebrations.

                My sister and I were blessed as children to celebrate many holidays with both sides of our family. My maternal grandparents lived with us. My father's parents lived west of our farm just a few miles.

                We enjoyed Thanksgiving and Christmas lunches usually with my paternal grandparents who lived only a few miles from our farm home. Their tiny house bulged with my extended Gates family members. Before my family arrived for lunch, the hunters in the Gates family had already been out for many hours. Often cousins matched up against each other for a fun game of football or outdoor activity to work off all the turkey, dressing, and outrageously high-caloric desserts. Professional football games blared from Grandma’s small television with over a half-dozen pairs of eyes trained on the tiny screen. The family storytelling appealed to me most. After several hours of mesmerized listening to stories I’d heard many times, sprinkled with frequent chuckles, my family said our good-byes and traveled east a few miles to Aunt Daisy’s home.

Daisy Rainey Rice with Wanda Rice Nix, her
oldest granddaughter.
Great-aunt Daisy Rainey Rice was the oldest sister of my grandma. We enjoyed the evening meal at Aunt Daisy’s home with my maternal grandparents. Since my mother was an only child, her parents celebrated the entire day with Aunt Daisy’s family. 
Many of Aunt Daisy’s children, her grandchildren, and great-grandchildren were there. The farmhouse shook with the spirited conversation and cheerful laughter.
Bernadean Gates, Ruby Martin Rice, Vickie Rice
Cabell, and Dean Rice Littlestar
Aunt Daisy’s son, Elmer Rice, and my grandfather, Calvin, instigated a lively discussion of politics whether it was an election year or not. As one can imagine, the two of them agreed on most issues.
Wanda Rice Nix, Calvin Callcayah Smith, my maternal grandfather, Virgil Rice,
the youngest son of Daisy Rainey Rice, and Edmund Gates, Jr., my father.
Recently, a relative reminded me that she received a warning that my grandma, Gladys, was coming. Grandma engaged a person in a religious discussion; actually, she required an accounting of how the person’s relationship with Jesus was. As a result, relatives sometimes “dodged” her. Only later after having entered into a vibrant relationship with the Lord, the same relatives were some of Grandma’s biggest fans.
Maxine Hines Rice, Gladys Rainey Smith, my 
maternal grandma, and Helen Foust Rice.
I never recall sitting at a proper table at either of these family celebrations. I dined at the kids’ table for many years. As I aged, I ended up sitting occasionally at a TV tray. Neither home had Thanksgiving-themed stoneware or china, sterling silver serving trays, or beautifully cut crystal glassware. I never remember coordinated cloth tablecloths and napkins.  The aroma ambiance of these older farmhouses derived not from the latest potpourri or candles, but mouth-watering baking scents wafting through the rooms of both homes. 
Hazel Rice Goad Guthrie, Yvonne Goad Kelly, and
Robert "Bob" Rice.
The Thanksgiving celebrations centered on intangibles such as collective thankfulness for a strong family held together by an unbreakable bond forged by common ancestry and resilient love. They knew a family could never allow the peripheral – food, tableware, activities, or even conversation topics– to interfere with the solid relationships unique only to that particular family.  
Tom Cabell recalled meeting "Grandma Rice."
Her granddaughter, Vickie, introduced them and
Daisy asked Tom if he worked. He responded,
"Yes, I do." She then asked, "Do you farm?" to
which he answered, "No." Her reply was, "You
don't work." It takes a tough skin to get into
some families!
God has richly blessed the Gates, Rainey, and Rice families. May we make deliberate choices to interact daily with love for our families on earth and so mirror the love in the family of God.  The Apostle Peter instructed in I Peter 4:8 from The Message:
  Most of all, love each other as if your life depended on it. Love makes up for practically anything.




*This blog posting first appeared six years ago on November 22, 2015.

Sunday, November 21, 2021

Seeing Red

                 Upon returning from walking to check the cattle a few weeks ago, I saw red! I glimpsed brilliant red colors peeking from a secluded spot nestled in a thicket. Pausing, I deviated from my path for a closer view of the vivid red objects. Upon more focused inspection, I discovered a Virginia Creeper vine tinted by the autumnal temperature variations. What a profusion of vibrant scarlet in nature for anyone to see!

The pretty red leaves of the Virginia
Creeper

                My mind recalled God’s promise to the Israelite slaves prior to God granting them release from the pharaoh’s cruel task masters. God succinctly gave a cause-and-effect couplet with life-altering consequences. He told Moses and the whole Israeli nation in bondage, “When I see the blood, I will pass over you.”

                The final plague, the death angel, would be sent. Every home with blood placed on the outer doorposts, visible from outside, would be “passed over” by the death angel, sparing the life of the first-born child in the home. Compliance with the directive lay with each family.

                All over the land of Goshen, Israelite families carried out the ceremonial sacrifice of the lamb. The blood was applied to the doorposts of the homes in faith that the death angel would see the blood and preserve the life of the oldest child in each dwelling. All through Goshen, the death angel saw red. No death occurred in Goshen.

                John the Baptist announced Jesus as “the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world.” The Jewish hearers immediately drew the connection between the Passover lamb and John’s identification of Jesus.

                Following the death on the cross and resurrection of Jesus, for Jewish followers, the linking of the yearly ceremonial meal of Passover and the blood Jesus shed made perfect their understanding. Many of the New Testament writers drew on this annual observance and its fulfillment in Jesus’ atonement for all who receive Him.

                Paul writes of the blood of Jesus in Ephesians 2:12-13, “At that time you were without Christ...having no hope and without God in the world. But now in Christ Jesus you who were once far off have been brought near by the blood of Christ.” All humans found themselves without God, but the relationship longed for is bought by Jesus’ blood.

                In Colossians 1:13-14, the Apostle Paul pens, ‘He (God) has delivered us from the power of darkness and conveyed us into the kingdom of the Son of His love, in whom we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins.” These powerful words illustrate the transformation from darkness into the kingdom of His love, made possible through His blood.

                John records what he was allowed to see in The Revelation of Jesus Christ. John hears the new song with these words of praise to Jesus for the blood He shed. What inclusivity is sung about in this song heard around the throne in heaven!


For You were slain,
And have redeemed us to God by Your blood
Out of every tribe and tongue and people and nation…
(Revelation 5:9)

The precious blood of Jesus made possible our relationship with God as our father and that same sacrificial  blood transformed our lives. With every opportunity, may we share the inclusivity His blood provides – redeemed ones from every tribe, tongue, and nation.

Reading Scriptures confirm the cleansing power of our salvation is in the blood of Jesus. Singing of the deliverance of the blood of Jesus strengthens our faith. As we approach Thanksgiving, may we express heartfelt thanks for the Blood of Jesus – not just this season, but every day of the year.


This is the link to a relatively new song entitled Thank You for the Blood Jesus performed by the Clark Family   

Sunday, November 14, 2021

Hidden Pictures in Nature and Life

                I wasn’t the most diligent student, especially in math. If reading a book, nothing could distract me, but math attentiveness was lacking when working the assigned problems. If the heater doors hadn’t been replaced in the Ralston School building, I could still identify “pictures” in the grain of the wooden door. I remember one hidden image was a Beatles haircut! (Dad always said, “The mind is a funny thing.”).

                A month or so back when working outside, I looked at the stump of an old black locust tree. Reverting to my old pastime in math, I spotted a hidden animal in the stump. See if you can locate the animal in the stump in the photo below.

The "armadillo snout" that I saw is located
in the upper right quadrant of the photo.*

              As I used the string trimmer at the base of the stump, I stepped back several times. I finally decided I saw an armadillo poking its snout out. My old ways from elementary school in Mr. Welker’s math class had returned.

A closer look at the part of the old stump that
looked like an armadillo snout to me.**

                When teaching, the third graders relished anytime I gave them a hidden picture puzzle. Making sure I experienced the thought processes needed to recognize the hidden items, I always did the puzzle “cold” myself.  I reminded myself I had to see the picture beyond the obvious, looking for the items “disguised” as something else.

                Jesus warned His followers of the disguise of false teachers. He compared them to ravenous wolves enshrouded as innocent sheep as recorded in Matthew 7:15. In Paul's farewell message to the believers at Ephesus, he noted the catastrophic results of those predators of the church in Acts 20:29, “For I know this, that after my departure savage wolves will come in among you, not sparing the flock.”

                One of the worst deceptive disguises was depicted by Paul in his second letter to the Corinthian church, in the eleventh chapter, verse 14: For Satan himself transforms himself into an angel of light. What a myriad of ruses are perpetrated on naïve sheep by the Deceiver who Jesus described as a thief who comes to steal, kill, and destroy.  

                May we never forget the many disguises of Satan. He uses many methods but veils most in light until he has stolen, destroyed, and killed any longing a person has for the plan God desired for that person. We warn others of the wicked one who shrouds himself in light, and remember, as believers, we must be alert to the devil’s stealthily concealed traps.

                As those who have experienced a relationship with Christ the Lord, let’s share the wonderful truth of the loving, forgiving, and restorative Jesus, the True Light of the World. The Apostle Paul described Him in Colossians 2:2-3, …Christ in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge. Embrace this prayer of David from Psalm 27:8 

When You said, “Seek My face,”
My heart said to You, “Your face, Lord, I will seek.”

**In this closeup, I outlined
 the snout and eye.
*I outlined the armadillo snout.

Sunday, November 7, 2021

Baldwin's Iron Weed and Buckeye Butterflies

             In early October, I spotted several Baldwin’s iron weeds blooming profusely. The stunningly, gorgeous purple explosions of color topped the vibrant green plants. During my return walk from checking cattle, I paused momentarily to snap a photo or two. My closer look revealed the weeds’ flowers teeming with buckeye butterflies.

At least four butterflies are shown feeding on the iron weeds in the pasture.

As I walked to the house from the pasture, I thought I think I took about seven shots. Those buckeye butterflies were so intent on feeding on the nectar of the iron weed plants.

My mind reflected on the previous Sunday in our Sunday School class. Even though the class is called the Women’s Class, most know it is for vintage women to study God’s Word (I refuse to dub it the “old women’s class.”). That morning, we had six women ranging from quite young - 20ish to vivaciously vintage. Each woman had her Bible opened, participating with reading, and commenting on the scripture’s direct relevance to her. We were as intent as those moths in our intake of God’s Word.

We study the Bible like this each week. I stopped and thought We’re in good company! These two verses popped into my mind. The first verse concerned Jesus and his practices and the second one described the Apostle Paul. In Luke 4:16, it is recorded, “So He came to Nazareth, where He had been brought up. And as His custom was. He went into the synagogue on the Sabbath day and stood up to read.” Luke, also the writer of The Acts of the Apostles, recorded in Acts 17:2-3 historical documentation of Paul’s habits with these words, “Then Paul entered the synagogue as his custom was, and for three Sabbaths reasoned with them from the Scriptures, explaining and pointing out [scriptural evidence] that it was necessary for the Christ to suffer and rise from the dead and saying, ‘This Jesus, whom I am proclaiming to you, is the Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed).’”

                The Son of God, perfect in every way, God-incarnate found regular study of the scripture with others an essential part of His week. Luke, inspired by the Holy Spirit, gave us a glimpse into the weekly worship of Paul as he reasoned and explained the scriptures to Jewish citizens of Thessalonica.

                A good Bible study group reasons, explains, and most of all, points out [scriptural evidence]. A godly group of students of the Biblical text searches and compares scripture with scripture when studying the Bible. This strategy of study is illustrated innumerable times in God’s Word  Frequently, we see in scripture Have you not heard? or Have you not read? which are examples of using scripture to interpret scripture. May we never fall back on our opinions or experiences if they fly in the face of God's Holy Word.

                 Jeremiah said in the book bearing his name, chapter 15, verse 16:

Your words were found, and I ate them, and Your Word was to me the joy and rejoicing of my heart; For I am called by Your name, O Lord God of Host.

 Like Jeremiah and the buckeye butterflies, may we feed on what nourishes us most.

The beautiful wing pattern of the buckeye butterfly.

Sunday, October 31, 2021

Who Do You Walk Like?

            One early morning this week, I walked quietly into the house after feeding the cats. I didn’t remove my boots. As I put on the counter the empty carton that held tantalizing scraps craved by our farm cats, I walked softly so as not to disturb my mother who was still resting. With my meticulous care, the boots still made a noticeable, but muffled, rhythmic sound. As I stopped to pull them off, I could hear in my memory that very same cadence produced by my father’s boots.

Dad and I preferred the same style of waterproof knee boots - Wellingtons. He bought the cheapest ones he could find and when they began to show wear, he pulled out the gray, duct tape to repair them. They were usually only replaced at his wife or daughters’ insistence. On the other hand, I like the Muck Boot Company’s Hale boot for women. 

I finally pulled out my birthday gift given by
Mother since the sole of one of my summer
 boots had part of its tread coming undone. I
had glued the tread on twice during the dry 
summer! The first day I wore these new boots
many things went wrong, but I came in 
announcing to Mother, "At least these boots
 were comfortable!"
            As I put up the boots as quietly as possible, I began wondering if even though our boots were so different, was it Dad’s DNA in me that made our morning steps so similar? Maybe it stemmed from Dad’s sensitivity that I had inherited. He never wanted to wake Mother up. Many times, I heard him tell me, “Let her sleep.” He remembered those incalculable mornings that Mother awakened at 5 a.m. to fix a big breakfast and nourishing lunch for him to take to the building site.

As I sat down for my Bible study, I kept thinking about what the Bible says about walking. The Apostle John wrote in I John 2:6 this admonition: The one who claims to abide in God ought to walk just as Jesus walked.

John had written this letter to reiterate God is light, love, and life. John specified our connection with God is realized only through Jesus. The above verse adamantly explains if we “claim” to abide in God, we will walk as Jesus walked. How do we know how Jesus walked? That is known only through reading and studying God’s Word. It is mandatory for us to study the words of Jesus, the heart of Jesus, and His actions toward others. We want to identify those things He loved. Never should we shy away from acknowledging the things He hated. We should be in total agreement with Him. John emphatically states if we are in God, our behavior will mirror Jesus.

So as a believer who should we walk like? John told us to walk like Jesus. I’m reminded of a frequently used quote by our pastor, Mike Brock. He says, “Your life may be the only Bible some people ever read.” If we truly walk like our Lord and Savior, then others may want a relationship with Him, too.

Sunday, October 24, 2021

Chives in the Soup

             One cool day this fall, Mother and I agreed on soup. I had thawed a dab of stew meat from the freezer. Mother seasoned it and soon it sizzled a bit as it browned in the large pot.

Our assessment the previous night revealed no onions. Mother wasn’t too disappointed. Her digestive system prefers milder vegetables. I exclaimed, “Mother, I spotted chives growing in several places in the back yard. Why don’t I get some tomorrow morning?” She approved.

Three Clumps of Chives in the back yard. This 
week more than I have ever seen have sprung up!

I zipped out with scissors and a pan the next morning. So many clumps of chives dotted the slightly overgrown lawn. Soon I had plenty of the snipped chives for the soup. As I cut them into smaller pieces, the mild pungency of the chives wafted to my nose. Setting them aside, I began peeling a few potatoes.

I pulled out of the refrigerator the whole tomatoes that I had thawed the previous night. Those tomatoes had been grown in the back yard flower beds and frozen whole a couple of summers ago.

 Soon the meat reached the doneness stage to Mother’s liking. The potatoes, along with frozen carrots slices, were added to the browned beef stew meat. I sliced the thawed tomato into appropriate pieces for the soup. Mother added some tomato juice and did a taste test for a final adjustment of seasonings. Finally, I sprinkled the small, green cylinders of chives on the top and slowly stirred the tantalizingly fragrant soup.

I snapped this photo just before incorporating the
chives into the soup.

After those natural flavors blended, the steaming bowls of homemade soup provided a satisfying lunch.

I mused about foods from the genus Allium mentioned in the Bible. Chives did not make the list, but its cousins - leeks, onions, and garlic, were enumerated among the craved foods of the Israelites led by Moses from slavery. When they wearied of the manna sent daily by God from heaven, these pungent vegetables cropped up in their tirade of complaining found in Numbers 11:5.

Some Jewish historical data indicated the Israelites may have endured from 90-120 years when “…the Egyptians made slaves of them and put brutal taskmasters over them to wear them down under heavy burdens…” recorded in Exodus 1:11. God heard their “groaning” and responded to their cries to Him by calling Moses to lead them from the enslavement of Egypt.

Yet after being delivered from an Egyptian regime that subjected them to slavery and infanticide of their precious babies, the Israelites complained about the manna from heaven. Asaph wrote of the heavenly food or “angels’ food” as he characterized it in Psalm 78:23-25, but this daily provision was disdained by most of those freed by the divine power of the Almighty God.

Like the freed Israeli slaves, we fail to acknowledge the goodness of God in our lives, even though as believers, we know He sent Jesus to redeem or buy us back from our sin. We become part of His family upon receiving this precious gift of eternal life from Him.

With that joy of freedom from sin, its guilt, and shackles, it is hard to understand how we could crave some of those old sinful habits. Paul makes plain in Colossians that the believers should no longer practice the sins of their past. The fifth verse from chapter 3 states explicitly, "Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immortality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry." 

Other less conspicuous sins hamper growth such as ungodly thinking, worrying, an inwardly critical spirit, failing to pray about all decisions or outright complaining. Reverting to these “invisible” sins mirrors the ungrateful Israelites craving the pungent veggies. 

David gave us in Psalm 119:11 and Psalm 34:1 the double-dose remedy to fight slipping back into old habits that derail our walk with the Lord. If we keep His Word in our hearts and minds and praise to Him on our lips, there will be no desire for the sins of our old life.

Your Word I have hidden in my heart, that I might not sin against You.

I will bless the Lord at all times; His praise shall continually be in my mouth. 

Sunday, October 17, 2021

Nine Decades Plus Seven Years

Bernyce Smith Gates, my mother, is  97  years old today, October 17. I am reprising an earlier blog post with an updated ending.

Bernyce Smith Gates in 2021

Mother as a teen
1st Decade 1924-1933 The first time I remember meeting Travis Myers, he related this account to me. Travis, who was about five years older than Bernyce Smith Gates, my mother, said when he was around 12 years old, he accidentally knocked her down on the way home from Belford School. He told me that as he towered over her, my mother, a spunky, small , seven-year-old, “got him told” about how he should have been paying attention to what he was doing and then would not have run over a little kid. Mother vaguely remembers this happening.

2nd Decade 1933-1943 Mother graduated at the top of her class in eighth grade in 1939 from Belford Grade School and had the highest grade average as a senior at Burbank High School in 1943. 

3rd Decade 1944-1953 Mother worked in a temporary capacity at the First National Bank in Burbank, Oklahoma. She was filling in for the bank president’s wife while she went to be with their daughter who was having a baby. Shortly after that, Mother was offered a permanent position at the bank, but instead chose to marry Edmund Gates, Jr. on March 4, 1948.


The First National Bank building in Burbank, Oklahoma. At the time of this 
photograph, the building was a residence.


4th Decade 1954-1963 Mother gave birth to both my sister, Angie and me and became the epitome of a fulltime, dedicated wife and mother. The myriad of Mother’s tasks ranged from designing and sewing a winter queen costume when Angie sang the lead role in a school Christmas program, encouraging daily piano practice to daily preparing (always before the sun came up which didn’t jive with her personal sleep pattern) a lunch for my father to take on the job with him. She insured he always had a hot dish, as well as chilled fruit or ice cream, and something to satisfy his sweet tooth in his lunch box. Mother’s average day began around 5 a.m. and ended well after midnight.


Angie during her final fitting models the
Winter Queen costume created by Mother .
 This was for the Christmas program
at the Ralston Elementary School.

5th Decade 1964-1973 My sister’s “family” booklet that she compiled in second grade began the section about her mother with this sentence, “My mother works.” Mother never worked a day outside the home during our upbringing. However, she canned 52 quarts of green beans yearly, preserved all other vegetables my grandparents and my dad raised in the garden. She made butter from the milk given by the family milk cow. It was the task of Angie and me to turn the handle of the Daisy churn until the butter “came.” She prepared three balanced meals each day for my grandparents, my father, my sister, and me.

6th Decade 1974-1983 For several years, Mother lovingly cared for both her parents until her father’s death in October, 1982, and the death of her mother in May of 1983.

7th Decade 1984-1993 When my grandparents died, Mother decided this was a time in her life to do what she most wanted to do so she embarked on intensive Bible study to prepare each week for teaching the adult women’s class at Ralston Baptist Church.

8th Decade 1994 – 2003 One of Mother’s great accomplishments was losing a total of 80 pounds over several years. She has retained a healthy weight up to the present.

9th Decade 2004 – 2013 In August of 2011, Mother recovered from gall bladder surgery in a remarkably, short time. She experienced a blockage requiring an ultrasound that detected an unrelated mass in December of 2011. A malignancy was discovered in January of 2012. In February of 2012, her oncologist reassured our family that surgery would be the answer for the tumor because it was identified so early. The successful surgery was on March 20, 2012, and yet miraculously, she was ready for Dad to come home from rehabilitation a week later. We still give thanks for that painful blockage.

Mother  in her early
 9th decade
On March 4, 2012, Mother and Dad shared their 64th anniversary dinner in his hospital room. One of his nurses, in her 20s, commented about what the secret was to the longevity of their marriage. Mother responded, “Well we are both Christians and have tried to put the Lord first in our relationship and Edmund has been easy to get along with.” Most of those who know her agree she is quite a remarkable woman herself.

10th Decade 2014-2021 With Dad’s second stroke, Mother learned dietician skills as she calculated the number of grams of protein in the protein-rich prepared meals. For about 19 months, she continued faithfully fixing nutritious meals until his death. For the last six years, she has retained her cattle herd, made efforts to do upgrades on the farm, voraciously studied God’s word, and prayed for scores of people often in the wee hours of the morning. What a good example for those who love her!

Happy 97th Birthday, Mother!