Sunday, October 25, 2015

Delores Dean Rice Littlestar

      According to my grandmother's family records, Delores Dean Rice was born on October 27, 1932 in Belford west of Ralston. This darling of her mother probably earned that recognition since she was the last baby to be born to Ernest and Daisy Rice.
     "Dean" as she came to be known, was Daisy' s daughter but had the fire of her aunt, Gladys Rainey Smith, my grandmother. She was creative like my grandma since she trained her little blind dog to clean under the kitchen table, lessening  Dean's need to sweep with the broom!
Delores Dean Rice - the most serious
I ever remember seeing of Dean. The
earliest photo of Dean in Grandma's
vintage photograph collection.
     Her musical talent appeared in the blog posting entitled When the Little Brown-Eyed Durgan Lived With My Grandparents. It was published last year on November 9. Singing three-part harmony was quite a feat for a sixth grader! Once again here is the similarity with her aunt, my grandmother, because Grandma was a note-perfect alto singer.
     She married Al Littlestar, a tall, handsome young man of Osage descent. Dean has an out-going personality much like Grandma. Both Al and my grandpa, Calvin Callcayah, also of Native American descent - Cherokee, would be considered reserved compared to Dean and Grandma.
     Grandma did much nursing pro bono during the Great Depression and World War II. As soon as Dean was old enough, Grandma discovered that Dean enjoyed going to assist her with caring for the sick in the community. From that point on, the twosome headed out on many medical adventures in the Big Bend.
     This desire to reach out and help others continued when Dean and Al moved from the Bend. She loved to entertain. An amazing account in her life involved friends from Texas coming to visit Dean and Al in Colorado. Shockingly, the couple's baby arrived early, but the couple had to return to Texas. So who visited the preemie every day? Dean Littlestar delighted in checking on that little one until the joyous day of discharge came.
Gary, Delores Dean, Al, and Mark Littlestar in 1978.
     Dean recently told me one of her sons asked about the origin of the family's legacy of faith. Dean replied, "Aunt Gladys - she made sure we were in the community Sunday School and church." Grandma was pushy with her faith much to the disgust of those who didn't share her love of the Lord.She was an aggressive believer in Jesus and His impact on her life. Seemingly, she felt she had lost the first thirty years of her life since she did not commit her life to Him until her father's death just prior to her thirty-first birthday.
     Dean continues to minister to women through prayer groups and Bible studies. Being a cancer survivor has caused many hurting women to listen to her witness for Christ and ask for her prayers.
My mother, Bernyce Smith Gates, and Delores
 Dean Rice Littlestar enjoying the Burbank High
 School Reunion in the summer of 2008.
Happy Birthday to Dean, the niece who is more like her aunt than her own mother!

Sunday, October 18, 2015

Reflection on Bees, Butterflies, and Marigolds

Psalm 119:103 How sweet are Your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth!

Persistent butterfly and the tenacious bee as seen near our tomato plants.

For several days, I noticed a bee and tiny butterflies on the marigolds planted near the four tomato plants that Hubert Hutchens gave us. He had raised them from seed so they were very healthy. The tomato plants were planted in containers.

Most of the marigolds were planted in the poor soil of the bed where the tomato plant containers are. Actually, the soil is shallow with some cement under a few areas of the soil. (That definitely explains why I practiced container gardening for my tomatoes!)

The marigolds have nectar that attracted bees and butterflies. These tiny insects diligently sought the sweet substance from the marigolds that grew from my "2 packets for $1" seeds.

How like God's word is the nectar from the marigolds! The sweet, appetizing nectar attracted the bees and butterflies. As I reflected on these intent insects, I remembered that nectar is considered sweeter than honey. What an illustration from God's creation to desire His word above all else! The psalmist says God's word is sweeter than honey and yet He showed me those little butterflies and that tenacious bee were vigorously seeking out the nectar of the marigolds that according to entomologists exceeds the sweetness of honey.

The nectar is essential for bees to create honey. The butterflies needed the nectar for their very existence. Only when we realize the necessity of daily reading or ingesting the Bible will we truly live a meaningful, worthwhile life, Look and learn from the bee and the butterflies.

Oh Lord, make my desire for Your scriptures mirror the voracious bee and the tiny butterflies craving the nectar of the marigolds. May I yearn for Your Word as the sweet nectar desired by the insects.

One of my many sightings of the determined insects. Oh to have their drive 
in our commitment to study God's Word consistently!

Sunday, October 11, 2015

Benders at the Tulsa State Fair in 1930

As the Tulsa State Fair is in full swing, this seemed the perfect time for this posting since it is about the fair 85 years ago!
                During the first half of the 20th century, the Big Bend was comprised of two communities and school districts. Belford School had the smaller school population while Woodland, on the western side of the Big Bend, “always had more kids” according to my mother, Bernyce Smith Gates. It is almost unfathomable to realize that Belford at its zenith had around 80 students, with Woodland boasting a student body of around 100. In a rough calculation, I figure that the Big Bend’s population exceeded 200 easily in the late 1920s and early 1930s!
                My mother and her parents lived on the east side of the Bend – Belford community. My grandmother relished being active in the community and getting as many others involved as possible. She prided herself on producing the best of the best in anything she attempted. Most of the time, my grandfather supported her - although sometimes begrudgingly since she was a workaholic and an overachiever.
 In the late summer of 1930, my grandparents took the Belford Agriculture Display to the Osage County Free Fair. The display exhibited various grains and crops grown at that time in the Big Bend. Grandma had the vision of how it should look and Grandpa helped her make it a reality. The Belford display won first place, so my grandparents with my mother, aged 5 (almost 6), in tow, packed and headed to the Tulsa State Fair.
                The Osage County Extension agent, Fred Ahrberg, assisted my grandparents, Calvin Callcayah and Gladys Vivian Rainey Smith, in preparing for their state display. Mother recalls that Mr. Ahrberg located a mechanical attention-getting doll to create even more interest in the Belford Agriculture Display. The little mechanical professor who moved his teaching pointer served as a eye-catching prop, attracting state fair goers.
This photograph was in the 1931 Osage County Free Fair program that Grandma had saved in her
keepsake box. This display had won in 1930. As Dad would say, "Benders can compete with the best of them."
                Mother did an obligatory displays walk-through. Grandma always valued learning so I am sure she encouraged my mother to learn as much as she could from the innovative booths. Mother zipped through the county displays in the building where the Osage County booth was. She was a bored little girl and looking for some action!
When quizzing Mother about her attendance at the Tulsa State Fair 85 years ago, the subject of livestock entries came up. Her reply to me indicated a low interest level in this area of the fair. Her exact quote at aged 90, “You’ve seen one cow, you’ve seen them all. I could see cows all day long when I was back home.”
Her keen interest was sparked by the midway rides. To my amazement, she rode all the rides, except the ferris wheel, by herself! Recently, we heard a report on the noon news from a Tulsa television station that a bracelet could be purchased for $75 that would enable children to have unlimited rides on all midway rides (except one) for the entire eleven days of the 2015 Tulsa State Fair. With her dry sense of humor, she exclaimed, “I would have been a Dizzy Lizzy because I would have ridden those rides all day long!”
My independent mother at age 5 (almost 6) rode as many rides as she could or as frequently as she could get the nickel or dime. In 1930, each ride was paid for individually. Less than one year after the stock market crash of 1929, the nickel and dime were hard to come by from her parents. She admits that she probably rode more rides than most kids that year because she was an only child.
In our present day, when a child is old enough to comprehend who a stranger is, the concept of “Stranger Danger” is drilled into each little one’s mind! Yet my mother ran around the midway willy nilly, riding the rides at her own discretion by herself, while her parents manned the Osage County booth. What a different world we live in!
Mother even admitted to getting lost frequently on the fair grounds. She indicated, in that era, only rich families feared kidnapping and glibly spouted, “We were so poor that me getting kidnapped wasn’t a worry.” Very seldom was it heard that sexual predators or such kidnapped children. To return to her parents, she would merely ask an adult or those who operated the rides to direct her to the “building with the booths” and she would calmly meander back.
It was such a different day and time. Mother said they slept on pallets right there in the pavilion where the award-winning booth was. The only fair food Mother remembered was the pink cotton candy. Her mother provided their food while there, primarily sandwiches. No fried-whatever-on-a-stick for them!
Often people ask about my mother's condition, at almost aged 91. Most know she managed to prepare Dad’s special foods, carefully calculating the protein grams, pureeing, and straining every bite he ate. She did a terrific job in loving and caring for Dad for 67 years of marriage. He readily nodded when I asked, "Is she the boss of you?"
            Mother is “scary smart” with a mind that never stops.* God has graciously blessed us with her. Happy 91st Birthday to Mother on October 17th.

* I wrote this before Dad's death. The evening I wrote this,  Mother was the one who noticed and troubleshot until she convinced me to call Ben, my brother-in-law, who walked us through how to get Dad’s oxygen machine working again!

Sunday, October 4, 2015

The Best...


Edmund Gates, Jr.
June 15, 1919-October 3, 2015
        As I write, I am sitting by my father as he laboriously breathes. Mother has  told him he was the best husband. Angie and I have told him he was the best dad and recounted what a giving father he has been. The three of us have agreed that the congenial, warm person viewed by the public was also the person Dad was at home.
       Over the past days, precious neighbors, dear relatives, and a former pastor and his wife have come and shared with Dad what a blessing he has been in their lives. Prayers of thankfulness for the godly impact he has had with his life have been offered by his bedside.
       Yet we are facing death square in the face, and the grim reaper image in no way conveys the actual viciousness of death. Early this evening, we reflected on the soul-sapping experience of watching life wrung out of this man we dearly love. I reached for the scriptures, locating I Corinthians 15:26 that states "The last enemy that shall be destroyed is death."

       Then I continued in that chapter to verses 54-57 that reads:
So when this corruptible shall have put on in corruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written,
Death is swallowed up in victory.
O death, where is thy sting? O grave where is thy victory?
The sting of death is sin; and the strength of  sin is the law.
But thanks be to God, who giveth us the victory through Jesus Christ our Lord.

       What we are facing is the excruciatingly painful "sting" of death, but Dad, after returning from World War II, made a commitment to trust Jesus as his Savior and Lord. For that reason, because of his life-altering faith in Jesus, Dad will have the ultimate victory over death. 

      Paul concludes that chapter with verse 58 to those of us who remain:
Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye steadfast, unmovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, inasmuch as ye know your labor is not in vain in the Lord.
How important it is for us to do all we do in the Lord. If every action we do is motivated by our "steadfast, unmovable" commitment to Him and not by pride nor to earn right standing with Him, He will be honored and it won't be "in vain."

If we have a firm trust in the Lord Jesus, when our time to die comes, our loved ones can sing as I did tonight the old hymn dating back to 1860 :

My latest sun is sinking fast, 
My race is nearly run,
My strongest trials now are past,
My triumph is begun

 O come Angel band,
Come and around me stand!
O bear me away on your snowy wings
To my immortal home!
O bear me away on your snowy wings
To my immortal home!

Then this seldom-heard verse that provided comfort and strength:

O bear my longing heart to Him
Who bled and died for me;
Whose blood now cleanses from all sin,
And gives the victory.

       May these scriptures and song lyrics provide inner peace and courage as we honor and emulate with our very lives a man who so greatly impacted many.

This post was written in the wee hours of October 3, 2015.